The Big Fat Indian Fetish

They ask you what do you want to study? You tell them you aren’t sure, so they judge, they not only judge but also question, not only question but also argue, not only argue but also disagree, not only disagree but also convince you. Convince you to do something that is safe, something that could give you security, that something is Engineering.

Welcome to India, the so called land of opportunities, which begin only after you suffer(the hindi suffer, according to the Indian Parent) through four years of burdensome, excruciating education, which you not only loathe but face a dilemma in the very comprehension of it.

Well, it’s a really tough time, being a dexterous student from an upper middle class family, as we’re expected to have a perception of family prosperity(financially, mainly.) at an age where we’re probably immature, petty little one’s having a meagre knowledge about what we yearn for. 

It’s highly disillusioning, this fact, that we categorize careers based on the income generated by them, considering the fact that professional stability must be actively devalued when it comes to the pursuit of happiness. 

Money is important, indeed, but not at the cost of your life. Life is something that you live, not plainly exist in the presence of a mammoth magnitude of green stuff. 

Which is where I question the Indian Stereotypes that make every father’s wet dream to have his son achieve the critically acclaimed post of an engineer.

No. Just no. Engineering isn’t the end of the world. We have a passion. We have an interest. Unfortunately, they get eclipsed due to the existence of such stereotypes, making us the manifestation of the so called “confused and fickle-minded” generation. 

Yes we are confused, but primarily, because we weren’t given a liberty to make an individual choice. 

Because when we wanted to, you made us meet 118447272 successful engineers who managed to convince us that clever guys are crafted for engineering.

Because we were forced into thinking that other career options are like a prodigality of our brilliance. 

So we ended up here, but now, when we see a small ray of hope breezing into our brains in the form of a passion(finally) , you think switching our career would make us a failure? Would make us a disappointment to your family? 

No. It’s time for some change. It’s time be radical and to trust ourselves, that probably having a 7 CGPA from an Average Engineering college and a 5Lpa job at TCS or Infosys is not something which we want from life. That probably we want to be top class lawyers like Ram Jethmalani or A1 chefs like Sanjeev Kapoor. 

It’s time for us to take that frightening step of doing what we want to, because if not now, then we’d be stuck up in this humdrum life looping around insignificant materialistic obsessions and not living. Don’t think guys. Just do it. 

Would like to end on a bollywood note by saying that, “Kahin Pohochne ke liye kahin se nikalna bohot zaroori hota hai, sahi waqt pe kat lena chahiye nahi toh gile sikhwe hone lagte hai.”